Sometimes it’s difficult to think about loving someone again when you’ve recently broken up or have been single for a while. After all, making yourself vulnerable and putting yourself out there for love can be a bit terrifying. But luckily, there are certain things you can do to get ready for love — all from the comfort of your own home. So what are you waiting for?
#1. Get to know yourself…
A healthy relationship with yourself is an attractive quality people can sense in you. It also gives you direction in figuring out who you’re attracted to. Self reflection through meditation is a good way to get a glimpse of your inner workings and help you to become aware of your feelings.
#2. …and make sure you like the person you are.
This is all about inner work, doing the right things and thinking the right thoughts. If you’re not feeling good about yourself, you’re not going to attract the kind of love you deserve. Self defeating thoughts that run amok can be replaced with positive mental feedback by habit alone. Did you know it takes 21 days to form a habit? For three weeks, I challenge you to pay attention to your thoughts and only allow your good thoughts to stick.
#3. Work on your independence.
To authentically fall in love, you should want the person, not need them. Being independent ensures that you’re choosing a partner for all the right reasons. Ever heard of Murphy’s Law? It says that when you don’t NEED someone in your life, that’s when they show up.
#4. Visualize the relationship you want.
Visualizing what you want from a relationship is a powerful tool you can use to get yourself in the mood for love. Start daydreaming about scenarios like how it would feel to have a lover’s arms around you, laughing with them, and the warm feeling you get when they text you. Thinking about the feeling is almost as real as the actual feeling. It’s certainly a good introduction to it.
#5. Get rid of your list.
The list is out when it comes to love. Love is a feeling, not a list of credentials about your partner. Having a rigid set of expectations pulls you away from a relationship based on love. While it’s nice if you can fall in love with someone who is clean shaven (because that’s on your list), you may be blind to the perfect bearded man. The list of expectations for the type of man you want can actually be counteractive so toss it aside and focus more on the feeling you’re looking for.