Relationships can be difficult to navigate, especially when you’re not sure what the other person is thinking. If you’re wondering whether or not the man you’re interested in wants a relationship with you, there are signs you can watch out for that he’s not interested. Some are obvious, other are more subtle. If you’re seeing any of these signs, it might be time to move on.
1. He’s disappeared on you before. Has this guy ever gone MIA after sex or any other emotionally charged encounter? If so, that’s a bad sign. Unless you are in an open relationship, he shouldn’t be disappearing on you without explanation or cutting contact for days at a time.
2. He doesn’t want to meet your friends, family, co-workers etc. People who are serious about relationships usually jump at the chance to meet the people they are dating. If he’s not interested in meeting your friends, it could be a sign that things aren’t heading to the next level.
3. He doesn’t introduce you as his girlfriend/boyfriend. When someone is serious about another person, they introduce them to other people as their partner. This might seem like a small detail, but it’s a strong indicator of his feelings for you.
4. He checks out other women when you are together. Not everyone will be openly ogling women in front of their partner, but if he does so repeatedly and without shame, he probably isn’t serious about you.
5. He’s not calling/texting much. If a guy is really into you and wants to be in a relationship with you, he’ll make an effort to stay in touch frequently and make plans for the future. He’ll also try to keep communication lines open when he’s busy. On the other hand, if he’s not making much effort to stay in touch, it might be a sign that there is no potential for the future.
6. He doesn’t seem interested in getting serious. If you’ve discussed your expectations with him and he doesn’t seem open to them, it could be a sign he’s not looking for a relationship.
7. He’s had multiple failed relationships. If he’s had a history of dating women who he claimed to care about but then dropped them, it might be that he’s not really into the idea of having a girlfriend.
8. He only wants a physical relationship. If he says explicitly that he doesn’t want a relationship, but still wants to sleep with you, it’s pretty clear where his mind is.
9. He makes excuses when you try to make plans for the future. If he keeps trying to postpone seeing each other or making any firm plans together such as going on vacation, he probably isn’t interested in a serious relationship.
10. He doesn’t treat you like a girlfriend. If he doesn’t make efforts to plan dates or be affectionate with you, it could mean that he’s not serious about being involved in your life.
11. He seems nervous when you bring up the idea of a relationship. If he acts nervous or uncomfortable when you start talking about your relationship status, it might be because he doesn’t feel just as strongly about you.
12. You don’t know anything about him (other than what he tells you). You shouldn’t have to use Google or Facebook to find out basic information like where he lives and his last name. If you’re with someone who is serious about dating you, there should be no reason why they can’t tell you these things themselves.
If he doesn’t want a relationship with you, don’t beat yourself up too much or sit around waiting for him to change his mind. If he’s not interested in being involved in your life, cut your losses and find someone who can give you what you deserve.