A TikToker and singer has ignited a discussion across social media with her provocative theory regarding individuals who frequently post about their partners online.
Occasions like Valentine’s Day, birthdays, Thanksgiving, or simply capturing a great photo together provide plenty of reasons to share a heartfelt post about your significant other on social platforms.
However, Chelsea Burmann, a TikToker, has expressed that while posting about your partner is fine, her theory suggests that ‘excessive’ posting might signal underlying issues.
In a video that has surpassed 4.5 million views, Chelsea shared: “I have a theory that if you’re posting your partner excessively on social media, with paragraphs and ‘you’re my soulmate’ and ‘you’re amazing’ excessively… that you’re actually miserable in that relationship.”
The singer elaborated on her perspective, recounting her own experiences and questioning the intent behind frequent posts, pondering “who are you trying to prove it to?”
“You can just tell them,” Chelsea suggested, asserting that the frequency and depth of such posts could be interpreted as a ‘cry for help’.
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Responses to Chelsea’s video varied widely, with some agreeing with her theory and others strongly disagreeing.
“A private life is a happy life,” commented one supporter, while another agreed: “100% it’s always the ones that end up breaking up.”
Conversely, one commenter refuted: “I post my partner all the time coz for the first time in my life I feel valued and happy in a relationship. So NO this is not true.”
Another echoed this sentiment: “I post my partner weekly cause he is the kindest, smartest, most caring soul. Healthy love exists and I love to share our love.”
After receiving almost six thousand comments, Chelsea released a follow-up video to clarify that, although the theory might not apply universally, it resonates with her personal experiences.
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“I know when I’m posting most on Instagram is when I’m the most unhappy,” she remarked. “I’ve been in a happy relationship now for quite a few months and I still post, but it’s not excessive.”
Chelsea recounted a past relationship where she felt compelled to post about her partner’s kind gestures as a way to validate his character to her followers.
“I know this specific situation has happened to many other people as well,” she added, concluding, “Not saying it’s relevant for everyone, but thanks for all of the comments.”