The practice of cuckolding is gaining traction among couples in the US, but it’s crucial to understand the risks involved before diving in.
As with any kink, maintaining consent, ensuring comfort, and prioritizing safety are all essential elements that must be vigilantly observed.
It’s important to have extensive discussions and maintain open communication to ensure all parties are satisfied with how things are progressing.
While some might assume Americans are more reserved than Europeans regarding bedroom activities, cuckolding has become a preference for a number of individuals.
If you’re unfamiliar with the concept, cuckolding involves a man watching his partner being sexually gratified by another person, typically another man.
For a flipped scenario, where the woman watches her partner, it’s referred to as cuckqueaning.
Mariëlle de Goede’s research on sexual fantasies in the Netherlands and Belgium revealed that certain fantasies like submission and domination resonate more with US trends than cuckolding does.
Discussing her findings on the Sex and Psychology podcast, hosted by Kinsey Institute sex researcher Justin Lehmiller, she noted that the patterns she observed didn’t always align with the US data.
So, what drives its popularity? The allure might come from its taboo nature. Alternatively, it may stem from an enjoyment of BDSM or the pleasure derived from seeing a partner satisfied, known as compersion, according to Lehmiller.
Lehmiller’s research, encapsulated in his 2018 book on sexual fantasies, showed that nearly 45 percent of men fantasize about seeing their female partners with other men.
Interestingly, he pointed out that politically conservative men are more inclined to engage in cuckolding as a fantasy than their liberal counterparts, even though they often use ‘cuck’ derogatorily.
One might assume there’s no downside, but that would be incorrect.
Adreena Winters, a sex expert and author of “So You Want To Be a Cuckold?” stresses the importance of establishing ground rules to prevent damaging the relationship.
Winters remarked, “I get a few comments from people worried that if they do take that step, it might ruin their relationship and maybe they find someone better, but it’s not the case. I’ve found it can strengthen the bond.”
She emphasized that the relationship should be solid from the outset before engaging in this increasingly popular trend.
“It’s not about replacing anybody,” she clarified.
There are potential benefits to engaging in this trend if approached correctly.
According to Winters, many couples explore it to revitalize their sex lives.
“I’ve seen married couples with children want to get involved with cuckolding,” she shared, noting, “A lot of older couples introduce it down the line, especially if they met when they were quite young. They feel like they need to do a bit more exploring.”
Winters elaborated, “Couples need to have that connection, or cuckolding isn’t that fulfilling.
“Cuckolding can also improve communication because couples need to make sure they’re coming back together and having open and honest conversations.”
If this sounds appealing and you believe it might enhance your relationship, it could be worth considering.