30-year-old virgin shares reasons for ‘never’ wanting to have sex

A 30-year-old woman who identifies as a virgin has expressed feeling ‘a little bit disgusted’ by the concept of sex and shares her decision to remain celibate.

In a conversation with Metro, Callie*, who lives in the UK, identifies as a ‘heterosexual romantic asexual’. Asexuality is a sexual orientation where individuals feel little to no sexual attraction towards others.

Individuals who are asexual might experience romantic attraction towards others, allowing for intimate relationships without the sexual component.

Callie stated to Metro that losing her virginity is not in her plans, expressing: “I’m happy for others who are enjoying a sexual lifestyle. But I’d like my sex life to be non-existent.

“I would just prefer to be with someone without the pressure of having to be intimate.”

Elaborating on her orientation, Callie mentioned: “As a romantic asexual, I know I want to be with someone. I just don’t want to have sex with them. And in this day and age, why shouldn’t that be okay? Often you hear of people no longer having sex and being fine with it.

“Relationships become like a Will & Grace set up of best friends living together and not jumping each other’s bones. So why can’t I have a relationship like this too?”

The difficulties become more apparent for Callie when she browses social media and observes her friends enjoying their lives with their partners.

She commented: “I just don’t know where someone like me is in a world full of sex. It makes me feel like I’m in a limbo of forever being alone and seeking that soulmate I’ve always dreamed of.”

While sharing her experiences for a ‘week in the life’ segment for Metro, Callie explained her use of dating apps to find love, but she quickly realized that there are limited options for asexual individuals.

“I find myself looking up how I can make an app or business to solve this issue,” she said. “Seeking out a crowdfunding page, full of facts and figures oddly brings me more excitement than the actual prospect of meeting someone. Whoops!”

Although Callie is searching for love, she mentioned that documenting her experiences has helped her understand that ‘being a romantic asexual virgin is perfectly okay’.

She concluded: “Right now, I’m ready to just see what happens. There are plenty of Ryan Gosling’s in this world, who may just be romantic asexual like me.”

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