A fresh trend called ‘warm sex’ is gaining popularity, and a specialist explains why it might be a valuable addition to your intimate life.
While it might sound puzzling to think of sex as anything but ‘warm,’ Barbara Santini, a psychologist and sex and relationships adviser at Peaches and Screams, clarifies that ‘warm sex’ isn’t about physical heat.
Often, sex is described as ‘hot,’ typically involving intense, fast-paced interactions.
However, ‘warm’ intimacy takes a more relaxed approach.
The 2004 American Sex Survey by ABC revealed that 83 percent of men enjoy sex immensely, compared to 59 percent of women.
This disparity is evident, but the concept of warm sex might help bridge this gap.
The Sexological Bodywork curriculum presents warm sex as a slower, gentler alternative to the high-paced scenes often depicted in films.
“’Warm sex’ is about slowing down, connecting deeply and savoring every moment. It’s not just about the physical act,” Santini told Glamour.
“It is about nurturing emotional intimacy, which is the bedrock of any strong relationship.”
Instead of hastily stripping and focusing solely on achieving climax, warm sex prioritizes the experience over the end goal.
Santini emphasizes that this more deliberate form of intimacy benefits both individuals and their relationship.
“I see it as a gentle balm for the soul, soothing anxieties and fostering a sense of security,” she mentioned. “Warm sex can reduce stress, boost self-esteem and strengthen bonds.”
This approach involves taking time to connect deeply with your partner, allowing for a mutual exploration.
Neglecting this can result in a relationship feeling stale and disconnected.
Santini highlighted that valuing connection over immediate gratification leads to new ‘pleasure and fulfillment that goes far beyond the physical’.
So, how is it practiced?
To set the scene, Santini recommends adjusting the lighting to create a calm environment.
“Dim the lights, light some candles, play soft music, anything that creates a serene atmosphere,” she advised.
As you explore each other, ensure there’s no specific goal but rather a focus on one another, maintaining open communication.
This conversation might include discussing fantasies, desires, or insecurities, according to the expert.
Vulnerability, she pointed out, is ‘key’ to this process.
Much like tantric sex, warm sex is slow, purposeful, and aims to enhance connection, steering away from treating sex as a rushed task.