Each couple has its unique approach to intimacy, from their preferred date nights to inside jokes, and this extends to their dynamics in the bedroom.
Sexual experiences vary significantly from person to person, yet a frequently discussed topic is the duration of intercourse.
We’ve often been told that longer is better when it comes to intimacy, but this might not necessarily be true.
A study suggests there is an optimal duration for sex, as well as a point where it becomes excessively drawn out.
Published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the study conducted by sex therapists analyzed intravaginal ejaculation latency time (IELT) — essentially the typical duration of intercourse — which averages between three and 13 minutes.
Researchers then examined partner satisfaction in relation to these durations.
The findings showed that intercourse lasting two minutes or less is considered too brief, while three to seven minutes is satisfactory for most individuals.
The optimal duration, or sweet spot, falls between seven and 13 minutes.
Experts determined that sessions lasting anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes are overly long.
While these findings offer a guideline, it’s important to remember that each couple’s experience is unique, and sometimes the duration is beyond our control. A 2005 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine noted that most couples average around five and a half minutes.
It’s important to recognize that some men may not last long during vaginal intercourse, but the focus should be on mutual pleasure.
Experiencing premature ejaculation doesn’t have to mean the end of a sexual encounter. It can be an opportunity to focus on your partner’s pleasure.
If you’re interested in extending your time together, there are several techniques you can try.
According to Men’s Health, the most crucial step is to exercise your pelvic floor. Additionally, reducing constant thrusting can help as it may accelerate ejaculation.
Reviewing your favorite position might also be beneficial, as changing it up could help you last longer.
Another technique is ‘the squeeze,’ which involves firmly gripping below the penis head with extra pressure on the urethra underneath. And, of course, there’s the classic strategy of masturbating before sex to reduce sensitivity.