Warning: This article contains discussion of suicide which some readers may find distressing.
A 44-year-old man has shared his decision not to hire a sex worker to lose his virginity and has spoken about experiencing the lowest point in his life.
The subject of sex and the age at which one loses their virginity varies greatly among individuals, making it a complex matter.
While many people are sexually active, others refrain from sexual activities for personal reasons.
For Stephen Kinnard, a business owner, his choice not to engage in sexual activity is significant.
In a 2024 episode of LADbible TV’s Honesty Box series, Stephen candidly discussed various aspects of his life and situation.
Among the questions he addressed was: “Have you ever considered using a sex worker to take your virginity?”
Stephen mentioned that he had thought about it once but ultimately decided it wasn’t the right path for him. He went on to describe a particularly challenging period in his life.
When asked, “What is the lowest point you’ve had?” Stephen provided a deeply honest response. He discussed the importance of sex being a meaningful act with the right person and in the right context.
Stephen expressed his admiration for women, yet stated that sex simply hasn’t occurred for him yet.
He confessed that his ‘lowest point’ occurred when he felt life was not worth living.
“I did want to end things and thought seriously about ending things, planned it out,” Stephen revealed, noting that he ultimately chose not to follow through.
“And life’s too precious, and I’ve got too much to lose, too many good friends. The family’s great. Really not worth it. That was a low point for me,” he shared.
When asked if his situation made him feel ‘lonely’, Stephen admitted that he used to feel that way but has since gained more confidence with age.
“I’ve always had very good friends and been okay in social situations,” Stephen added.
“So even though I’m on my own at the moment, I’m not lonely and find ways of occupying myself.
“I’ve got plenty of interests and always a lot going on. And I’d say to anybody that’s in my situation to just find something that you’re interested in and you’ll never be lonely.”
If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available through Mental Health America. Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org. You can also reach Crisis Text Line by texting MHA to 741741.
If you or someone you know needs mental health assistance right now, call National Suicide Prevention Helpline on 1-800-273-TALK (8255). The Helpline is a free, confidential crisis hotline that is available to everyone 24 hours a day, seven days a week.