An expert in dating has shared a ‘three-second rule’ that she believes will help individuals leave a lasting impression on new acquaintances.
While maintaining a relationship is challenging, initiating one can be equally daunting.
It’s crucial to keep certain tips in mind when trying to capture the interest of someone special. For instance, consider the questions to avoid on a first date.
Additionally, what blunders should be steered clear of? Is texting early on advisable or not?
However, the first impression is pivotal to setting the right tone. According to Louanne Ward, a matchmaker based in Australia, there’s a straightforward technique to instantly enhance your appeal—taking merely three seconds.
“Are you killing your own attraction powers without even realising it?” Ward queried on Instagram.
“Rushing conversation to fill silence. Thinking more about what you want to say next rather than listening. Fast movements or fidgeting. Simple things added up are attraction blockers.”
Fortunately, there’s an easy solution, involving a ‘3-second hack that makes people see you as more attractive, more charismatic, and more memorable’, according to Ward.
This technique, known as ‘pause and hold’, involves taking a three-second pause when entering a room, meeting someone new, or starting a conversation.
Ward further explained the importance of ‘holding eye contact’ before looking away, followed by another pause before responding to a question.
“Let a moment breathe instead of rushing to fill it,” she advised.
Why is this approach effective?
The dating expert explained: “Pausing shows confidence. People who rush seem nervous. A slight pause signals certainty.
“Holding eye contact builds connection. Just 2–3 seconds can make someone feel an instant pull toward you. It makes people lean in. When you don’t rush, your words carry more weight.”
Ward highlighted: “Most people never use this because silence feels uncomfortable. But the moment you learn to own it, you change the way people see you forever.
“And this is just one small piece of what makes attraction effortless.”
Once you’ve secured a first date, it’s wise to avoid certain subjects.
Relationship expert Jacob Lucas, speaking for FruitySlots.com, advised: “Politics is a touchy subject. You probably shouldn’t talk about this on a first date — it can get too heated.
“Second, don’t talk about your ex, people aren’t on a first date with you because they want to hear about your ex.
“It also suggests you might not be over them either.”