Comedian Dax Shepard recently discussed his views on relationships, explaining why he isn’t a ‘fan’ of his wife, actress Kristen Bell.
The pair got married in a simple ceremony at a courthouse in October 2013, shortly after the birth of their first daughter, Lincoln.
Since then, their professional paths have diverged, with Bell, now 45, continuing her acting career, while Shepard, 51, has found success as a podcast host with his popular show, Armchair Expert.
Shepard’s candid discussions about his marriage to Bell and their parenting have become a hallmark of his podcast. In a recent episode, he revealed that being a ‘fan’ of his wife doesn’t align with a healthy relationship dynamic.
During a conversation with Justin Garcia, an evolutionary biologist and Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute, Shepard explored the importance of expressing attraction within a relationship.
“‘We tend to be attracted to people who are attracted to us,” Garcia noted. “In long-term relationships, it’s crucial to let your partner know why you are attracted to them, whether it’s their appearance or intelligence.”
However, being overly devoted or acting as a ‘fan’ is different from healthy admiration.
Garcia explained: “There’s a distinction between being a fan and being in a balanced relationship. Fans might not fully hear or understand their partner.”
Shepard agreed, reflecting on his own marriage. Both he and Bell were pursuing successful acting careers when they first met.
“I don’t think it’s healthy to be a fan of your partner,” Shepard said. “People often ask me if I’m amazed by her, but I don’t view her through the same lens as her fans do.”
Both Bell, known for roles like The Good Place, and Shepard, from Parenthood, are no strangers to praise in their careers.
Yet, in a personal partnership, being a fan doesn’t equate to a balanced relationship, which requires teamwork for everyday tasks and responsibilities.
After nearly 13 years of marriage, Shepard concluded by saying, “But I do admire and respect her,” highlighting the foundation of their enduring relationship.