A prominent divorce attorney from New York has shared insights on the differences between men and women in terms of infidelity, as well as how each gender typically responds when they discover a partner has been unfaithful.
Earlier this year, a survey revealed that approximately 50% of individuals in marital relationships engage in infidelity at least once during their marriage.
Reasons for cheating vary, with some citing anger or low self-esteem, while others point to a lack of love or the pursuit of sexual variety and pleasure, according to Vogue.
Infidelity is frequently mentioned as a significant factor leading to divorce.
The Law Offices of Sacks & Sacks report that extramarital affairs are responsible for 59.6% of divorces in the United States.
James Sexton, a seasoned attorney and a regular guest on the Diary Of A CEO podcast, has guided many through the divorce process. Hailing from New York, Sexton shared his experiences in an interview on the LADbible Stories YouTube channel, participating in the Honesty Box series.
During a 31-minute discussion, Sexton provided insights into how men and women handle the dissolution of their marriages.
As the conversation drew to a close, Sexton noted that in his view, infidelity is approached differently by men and women.
“I would say in my experience, men cheat more but women cheat better,” the law expert stated.
“Women go big or go home, you know. Men just like to do dumb s***t a lot of the time.”
Sexton also pointed out that not all acts of infidelity are the same, distinguishing between a mere ‘dalliance’ and a full-blown affair.
He elaborated on how the discovery of infidelity elicits different responses from men and women.
“I’ve said it before, although it’s not a popular thing to say out loud, when a man finds out that his wife cheated, his first question is ‘did you f**k him?’.
“When a woman finds out her husband cheated, the first question is usually ‘do you love her?’.”
Sexton observed that these responses reveal a lot about the dynamics involved.
“Because the question is, ‘What does this mean to you? Does this person mean more than I do?’ versus ‘Has this person like taken my property? Has this person touched my property?’.
“So it says something about our sort of internal biases about how we approach our spouse and approach marriage.”
The full Honesty Box episode featuring James Sexton is available to watch on the LADbible Stories YouTube channel.