A sex and intimacy coach is assisting couples in revitalizing their sex life using a technique referred to as ‘pinballing’.
There seems to be a growing awareness that there are multiple ways for a woman to experience orgasm. Alongside the ‘Karezza’ sex trend, this year has encouraged many to break away from their usual sexual routines and explore new possibilities.
If you find yourself merely ‘riding the escalator,’ as described by sex and intimacy coach Hannah Johnson, there’s no need to worry because a new approach is available.
Known as ‘The Libido Fairy,’ Johnson criticizes the ‘escalator’ approach, suggesting it may be subtly harming your sex life without your awareness.
Her alternative? The ‘pinball method’.
“What on Earth?!” you might wonder. Well, get ready to discover a new way to spark excitement in the bedroom.
Before you rush to purchase a pinball machine, it’s important to understand that the pinball method is metaphorical.
Johnson elaborates that ‘playing pinball’ with your partner involves engaging in various forms of intimacy rather than sticking to one routine or repeating the same acts continuously.
She shared on social media that ‘playing pinball’ embraces ‘non-linear experiences, exploring without a goal and focusing on pleasure,’ fostering intimacy that is truly desirable.
Feeling unsure about where to begin? Consider ‘play wrestling, oral, kissing, massage, role play, eye gazing, using a toy, tickling, or dirty talk’ as starting points.
If navigating such a spontaneous approach in the bedroom feels overwhelming, Johnson suggests creating a ‘sex menu’ of activities that both you and your partner enjoy or want to explore, providing some guidance.
“Pinball naturally decentres penetration and puts pleasure back at the center,” she told Metro. “It reduces pressure and expectation for performance or for things to go perfectly, and keeps you in the moment instead of zoning out on autopilot.”
But how can you determine if your relationship could benefit from some pinballing or if you’ve been ‘riding the escalator’?
First, don’t worry about finding an escalator in a shopping mall for romantic purposes; the term is metaphorical here too.
Much like being on an escalator, where individuals often zone out as they are transported from point A to point B without considering the experience, this concept relates to how some might approach their relationship and, more specifically, their sex life.
Johnson explains: “The escalator prioritizes penetration and completion of a script over genuine connection and creativity in the bedroom.”
This method of approaching sex often focuses primarily on penetration, sidelining hands, toys, and oral activities, leaving many, especially women, less satisfied.
So why not step off that escalator and consider other options like the stairs, a lift, or even a helicopter? And, naturally, don’t forget about the ‘pinball’ experience you’ve just discovered.