We’ve all encountered discussions about red and green flags in dating, but have you heard about ‘yellow flags’?
We usually think of green flags as positive indicators in a partner, like demonstrating kindness.
On the contrary, a red flag typically makes your closest friends advise you to leave the relationship immediately.
Often, it’s our friends and family who help point out these flags, as it can be challenging to evaluate them ourselves while involved in a relationship.
Todd Baratz, a therapist and author, spoke to the New York Times regarding yellow flags, which are a bit more nuanced and harder to interpret.
Baratz explained to the outlet that while a yellow flag isn’t an emergency, it is something to be aware of.
In essence, it’s important to discuss your concerns with your partner.
Psychotherapist Stephanie Manes mentioned to the New York Times that a date who claims all their exes have been ‘horrible, borderline-crazy people’ is a clear yellow flag.
While it’s possible someone could have had bad luck dating ‘horrible’ or ‘crazy’ individuals,
Manes suggested it might also indicate that the person doesn’t take responsibility for their role in past relationship failures.
Another potential yellow flag noted by experts is inconsistency in your date’s behavior.
They may text you frequently and then suddenly disappear.
While this is not as severe as being completely ignored, it raises questions about their intentions.
This inconsistency can lead to insecurity and confusion about where you stand.
Instead of guessing, one relationship expert suggests sending a clear text to address the issue.
“Hey, I feel anxious when I don’t know when I’m going to hear from you. Can you give me realistic expectations of when you’re able to text me?”
Understandably, people have busy lives and may not be able to text during work hours.
If this is communicated clearly, it could potentially turn the yellow flag into a green one.
Ultimately, it’s all about communication.
Most experts agree that addressing concerns can transform a yellow flag into a green one quickly.