A dating coach has identified four phrases frequently used by women that might carry a deeper meaning. Often, instead of direct communication, it can be uncomfortable to reject a date or turn down a friend’s advances, leading to the use of certain phrases that serve as a gentle letdown.
Blaine Anderson, a dating coach and TikTok personality, has highlighted five expressions women use, explaining that they often have more layers and don’t always mean what they appear to on the surface.
For men, if you were surprised by what women consider makes “men good in bed,” prepare for more moments of realization.
In a video she shared on April 5, titled “Things girls say vs. what they actually mean…”, Anderson delves into these common phrases.
The first phrase might sting a bit, especially if you’ve heard it in the past without grasping its true meaning.
While it may seem like they’re concerned about damaging the friendship, Blaine explains this often means: “I’m not attracted to you but you’re my friend and I don’t want to hurt your feelings.”
If there was interest, they’d likely want to explore it, even at the risk of the friendship, to avoid future regrets.
So, if they cite preserving the friendship as the reason, consider it a gentle way of saying they don’t view you romantically.
Next is an age-old excuse, not exclusive to women.
Anderson explains that this actually means: “I’m not really interested and I’m only responding to be polite.”
This isn’t just a female tactic; many hope that slow responses will make the conversation fade out on its own.
In truth, it’s best to be straightforward and save both parties’ time.
Lastly, social media presents more challenges to relationships, despite its benefits.
Whether it’s about followers, content on their ‘For You’ page, or if your partner shares pictures of you or not, social media can complicate things.
According to Anderson, when someone says they don’t post about who they date, it often means: “I don’t want people to know we’re dating. At least, not yet.”
However, there’s a positive note to conclude on.
Anderson mentions that some comments are genuinely positive, indicating: “I like this conversation keep it going.”
Now, did they use ‘aha’ or ‘haha’? I’ll leave you to ponder on that.