Just as you wouldn’t start a run without warming up, diving straight into sex without adequate foreplay can lead to unsatisfactory experiences. Many people underestimate the importance of foreplay, seeing it merely as a prelude rather than a crucial part of the experience.
For some, foreplay is seen as a tedious task to rush through before reaching the main event of penetrative sex. This is akin to sprinting without properly warming up or stretching, which can lead to one partner reaching satisfaction while the other is left behind.
This disparity in readiness and satisfaction is part of what contributes to the ‘orgasm gap’ between men and women. Understanding how much time to dedicate to your partner’s pleasure is vital for a fulfilling sexual experience.
The ideal length of time for foreplay varies based on individual preferences and needs. Without discussing what each partner enjoys, it’s like attempting a triathlon without the necessary equipment.
Gemma Nice, a certified sex and relationship coach, discussed with Metro how these needs differ. She stated, “Men can usually climax in around 5-7 minutes, whereas it typically takes a female anywhere between 20-30 minutes.”
Therefore, she suggests aiming for 15 to 20 minutes of foreplay to enhance arousal. Since men often reach arousal more quickly than women, it’s crucial to ensure mutual engagement in foreplay to facilitate natural lubrication and deeper arousal.
Spending this time on foreplay not only aids in reaching orgasm but also makes both partners feel relaxed and more aroused, benefiting all genders. 
Nice explains, “The longer you’re engaged in foreplay, the more aroused and relaxed the body will be.”
“When your body is in a state of calm, the blood can then flow from the heart, lungs and brain and move down to the genitals, allowing the 10,000+ nerve endings there to be activated.”
“This can then give a better overall sexual satisfaction to both partners.”
Experimenting with different types of foreplay, such as edging or breathwork, can help prolong the experience. This not only enhances the sexual connection but can also strengthen the relationship by reducing stress and tension.