There is a new trend in the realm of intimacy that some claim is revitalizing marriages, though experts caution it isn’t suitable for everyone.
The world of intimacy is always buzzing with new trends, such as shibari. However, the latest trend gaining traction is known as ‘hotwifing’, and it’s one that could either rescue or ruin your relationship.
You might be familiar with the concept of hot-desking, where employees in an office share desks, choosing to sit wherever is available at any given time. ‘Hotwifing’ operates on a somewhat similar principle, but instead of desks, it’s wives who are being shared.
This practice involves a wife engaging in sexual activities with another man, with the approval of her husband or partner.
One man, who permits his wife to engage in this unconventional activity, likens it to ‘letting your friend test drive your car’, according to Mail Online.
“He gets to see how well it rides. He’s got to give it back, but it creates a sense of pride. You get a little taste of what my life is like.”
For some, ‘hotwifing’ has brought new life to their sexual experiences, fostered emotional growth, and boosted confidence, particularly in women.
Couples may turn to this practice due to sexual dissatisfaction or emotional disconnection.
Priyanka Kapoor, a psychotherapist, psychologist, sex therapist, and couple and family counselor from Mumbai, shared with NDTV: “Sometimes, issues like erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation in men may lead to such arrangements. In other cases, it’s sexual boredom that motivates the shift.”
Despite some accolades for ‘hotwifing’ as a relationship saver, experts caution that it carries significant risks of going ‘horribly wrong’.
Dr. Neetu Tiwari, MD Psychiatry at NIMS Medical College and Hospital, remarked: “Like any kink, hotwifing can be very pleasurable — and very intense. But it can also go horribly wrong. Especially when emotions like jealousy and resentment enter the picture.”
Kapoor further explained: “In some cases, women may become emotionally invested in the new partner. Women often connect through personality, humour, or lifestyle, not just the physical.
“If the emotional bond develops, infidelity starts — even if it began as consensual non-monogamy.”
To prevent such outcomes, experts recommend having open conversations with your partner before engaging in ‘hotwifing’. For instance, discuss the possibility of developing feelings for someone else.