It seems there’s a specific time of day that’s considered the least optimal for engaging in bedroom activities.
Although everyone’s sexual desires vary, a more fulfilling intimate life might depend on the timing of these activities.
While any time might seem better than not at all, researchers have discovered that the most common time for intimacy could be affecting its quality.
A study published in Frontiers of Psychology highlights the challenge straight couples face due to differing libidos, with women often preferring nighttime, while men are typically more eager in the morning.
The 2018 research indicated that most couples engage in intimacy between 9pm and midnight before going to sleep.
However, Michael Breus, the author of The Power of When, suggests that nighttime encounters might not be ideal.
“Sex at bedtime is not bad; it’s just that most people are exhausted,” he stated, according to Healthy. “When your body craves rest, there’s a likelihood you won’t have the energy for a truly memorable experience.”
Beyond the quality, engaging in intimacy before sleep can also impact the quality of rest, potentially making you more alert due to the surge of endorphins and adrenaline.
However, for many, pre-sleep intimacy has the opposite effect.
“For the majority of people, sex is a tension reducer and relaxer,” noted Lisa Thomas, a licensed relationship and sex therapist. “People use sex as a method to fall asleep.”
Experts agree that the optimal time for intimacy is when there’s an opportunity to relax afterward, which helps recharge hormones during sleep and leads to waking up refreshed.
“You now have a prescription for morning sex,” Dr. Breus humorously suggested.
Additionally, age is a significant factor in determining the best timing.
Hormone health expert Mike Kocsis and founder of Balance My Hormones explained to Metro that this is linked to our hormones, which are at their peak in the 20s.
“You have a higher libido, especially around ovulation, and you have more energy and emotional response to intimacy,” Mike elaborated, making mornings ideal for younger adults.
In the 30s and 40s, the best time transitions from spontaneous moments to scheduled encounters, which the expert believes can enhance emotional satisfaction.
Between the ages of 40 to 50, routines may shift again, with this phase being seen as a ‘golden era’ for rekindling spontaneity.
For those aged 60 and beyond, a new phase of sexuality awaits, described as ‘richer and more intentional than ever,’ with the best time being afternoons and early evenings.