Jennifer Lopez opened up about the challenges she encountered in her relationship with Ben Affleck during a recent interview.
The relationship between Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck was shrouded in mystery for months until it was confirmed that the couple was heading for a divorce.
Lopez had been previously married to Ojani Noa, Cris Judd, and Marc Anthony before marrying Affleck in Las Vegas in July 2022, followed by a more extravagant ceremony in Georgia in August.
Two years after their Georgia wedding, Lopez filed for divorce, following months of speculation about a possible split.
In her divorce filing, Lopez cited ‘irreconcilable differences’ as her reason.
During a new interview with comedian Nikki Glaser, Lopez delved into the details of the relationship, sharing insights on what she has learned and her hopes for the future.
She compared the collapse of her marriage to an exploding and burning house, expressing that she is now focused on self-reflection to move forward.
Lopez said: “When your whole house blows up, you’re standing there in the rubble going, ‘How do I not ever let that happen again?’
“And then you start examining it little by little saying, ‘OK, I did this, this was my part in it, this was what I should have seen early on, this is what I didn’t look at.’ Those things are what really are the lessons.”
Discussing her shortcomings, Lopez candidly remarked: “You have to be complete if you want something that’s more complete. You have to be good on your own.
“I thought I learned that, but I didn’t. And then, this summer, I had to be like, ‘I need to go off and be on my own.’ I want to prove to myself that I can do that.”
She acknowledged that embarking on this journey was extremely challenging and came with its own issues, such as loneliness.
Nevertheless, the performer remains hopeful about her future and personal growth now that she is single.
She expressed: “It feels lonely, unfamiliar, scary. It feels sad. It feels desperate. But when you sit in those feelings and go, ‘These things are not going to kill me.’
“It’s like actually, I am capable of joy and happiness all by myself.
“Being in a relationship doesn’t define me. I can’t be looking for happiness in other people. I have to have happiness within myself.
“I used to say I’m a happy person, but was still looking for something for somebody else to fill, and it’s just like, ‘No, I’m actually good.’”