If you’re feeling bored of your go-to moves in the bedroom, it could be worth looking into something known as the ‘Kivin method’.
No, it’s not a typo for Kevin, and it’s not specifically related to people with that name (unless that happens to be your partner’s name).
The Kivin method focuses on oral sex, specifically a different approach to how a woman receives it.
Rather than the giver positioning themselves straight on, the technique involves approaching from a sideways angle. The idea is that this changes the direction and style of clitoral stimulation.
MindBodyGreen notes that the altered angle can create a different sensation for the receiver.
It’s also thought to be easier on the person giving oral sex, since the sideways positioning can reduce strain and make it less necessary to hold the head at an awkward angle for long periods—potentially helping with neck comfort.
Explaining some of the benefits, sexologist and author Sadie Allison said: “Your hands are free in a different way, so you can easily touch breasts, stomach, thighs, and hips from a new angle, creating a fuller experience.”
Allison also told HuffPost: “This makes for a more intimate and connected experience. Try rubbing their shoulders, playing with their hair, or tease their nipples.”
She added: “Internal stimulation can be easier to incorporate. With this new position, it can be easier to provide vaginal, G-spot, or even anal play at the same time.”
Sex educator and coach Suzannah Weiss has also shared thoughts on who is most likely to enjoy this technique, suggesting it may suit people who prefer side-to-side stimulation.
“People who are fans of the Kivin method are generally those who like their clitoris stroked from left to right,” she said, as per MindBodyGreen. “So, if you masturbate by moving your finger from side to side over your clit, it might be for you.”
As for where the name and method originally came from, the exact origins aren’t clear. However, it’s been referenced by experts for many years, including an appearance in the 2001 book The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Tantric Sex.
For anyone curious about trying it, sex and relationship coach Keeley Rankin suggests starting with the receiver lying on a sofa, while the giver kneels and angles their head to the side.
“I think one of the most important things with anything having to do with sex, especially oral sex, is enthusiasm, and so much of that is needing to be comfortable while doing it,” she said.
Rankin continued: “You’re not going to have a ton of enthusiasm if you’re worried how your neck is going to feel tomorrow.”