Nikki Glaser has opened up about occasionally struggling to orgasm and shared what tends to help her reach climax.
People’s turn-ons can vary wildly. Some are curious about practices like “sploshing” (which has popped up in conversation thanks to the latest season of Euphoria), while others explore different relationship structures — and there’s no shortage of terms for what people are into.
For Golden Globes host and comedian Nikki Glaser, one part of how she approaches relationships is being comfortable with her boyfriend having sex with other women.
The 41-year-old has dated Chris Convy on and off for around a decade, and during that time she says she’s been fine with him sleeping with people besides her.
“In a relationship, I don’t really care if my boyfriend were to hook up [with someone else],” she told Alex Cooper on Call Her Daddy.
“But that is not a two-way street. I’m not someone who likes to hook up when I’m in a relationship. I don’t really care about that. But I don’t care if someone else were to. In fact, I kind of like it.”
Later in the conversation — released earlier this month — Glaser said she often finds it difficult to orgasm, adding that she can feel “embarrassing” about it.
When Cooper asked about the kind of porn she sometimes watches to help her finish, Glaser explained: “I really like when there’s like a guy who’s being almost like a coach kind of person that’s like making a girl do something really whorish that she’s kind of like ‘I don’t know if I can do this’ and he’s like ‘you can do it’.
“And then she does it and he’s like ‘good girl’. And that’s like always when I’m like I climax is when the guy is like praising the girl.”
Cooper followed up by asking what search terms she uses, and Glaser said she looks up “forced orgasms”.
From there, Glaser went deeper into how she thinks about sex and why orgasming can be a challenge for her.
“I have a hard time orgasming because it’s like a loss of control that I don’t like like because I like to be in control,” Glaser admitted. “And so I’ve always felt like orgasms were hard for me because I was like, I just look so stupid.”
She also said that, from her perspective, a woman orgasming can feel “embarrassing” — at least for her personally.
Glaser suggested that in scenarios like the ones she describes watching, where the man is portrayed as “making” his partner finish, it feels less awkward to her because it doesn’t feel like it’s on her.
Different strokes for different folks.