A psychotherapist has provided insight into why some men are turning to relationships with AI rather than pursuing traditional connections with people.
As AI technology continues to evolve, the landscape of dating is rapidly transforming, with no indications of slowing down.
While some may use AI like ChatGPT for assistance with dating advice, such as crafting replies or finding conversation starters, others are engaging on a deeper level with these AI entities.
There are instances where men have established full-fledged relationships with AI chatbots, utilizing either subscription services or free AI chat platforms.
While non-traditional relationships have always existed, the concept of romantic involvement with AI is a newer development.
Sarah Louise Ryan, a relationship expert and psychotherapist, discussed this emerging trend with UNILAD, explaining the straightforward reasons why some men prefer AI over human partners.
Ryan began by addressing a common misconception about those involved with AI chatbots—that they seek to control their “partner.”
She clarified that the motivation is not about control, but rather about seeking comfort and avoiding the fear of rejection.
Ryan stated: “It’s just so fascinating. Well, the first thing that I think about is that they’re using it, but it’s not about control; it’s about rejection, not feeling rejected. That is what feels within control.”
She elaborated on how these AI-based relationships can become addictive due to the continuous positive reinforcement provided by the technology.
Particularly since some AI platforms allow users to customize the bot’s ‘personality’, creating a more agreeable interaction.
This contrasts with real human relationships, where disagreements and challenges are a natural part of interactions, as opposed to simply being told what one wants to hear.
Ryan further explained that the repeated positive interactions with an AI can eventually develop into romantic feelings.
“So you have got this chatbot that is instantaneous in validating your concern, giving you what feels like a connection.
“When you want it, it’s attentive, and the way it’s designed is to be empathetic. So you could say, ‘I’m having a really sh*t time dating, is it me?’ And it [will] say no, because that’s empathy.
“The validation creates safety in our brains, right? So what’s happening in the male psyche when he’s receiving attention and empathy instantaneous conversation? He feels safe. So what feels unsafe going out there, relating to other human beings.”