A relationship expert has provided essential advice for couples who might be heading toward a ‘menodivorce.’
Although overall divorce rates are falling, there is a specific demographic that accounted for one in four divorces in the United States as of 2019. This demographic is those aged 50 and older, an age where many women experience a significant life transition: menopause.
During menopause, some women find themselves less willing to tolerate certain behaviors from their partners, which can lead to separation—a phenomenon now known as ‘menodivorce.’
Katy Viva, a mother of three, experienced this firsthand when she left her husband last year.
“I don’t know if [menopause] caused the divorce, but I will say that menopause made me unwilling to put up with the bullsh*t anymore,” she shared with USA Today.
For those concerned about the possibility of experiencing a ‘menodivorce,’ Claire Renier, a relationship expert at the dating app happn, advises couples to focus on several key aspects.
“It’s crucial to have open and honest communication during this time,” Claire noted, adding, “Not all menopause symptoms can be easily alleviated, so simply being a supportive presence is one of the most important things you can do.”
Claire emphasized the importance of allowing menopausal women to express their feelings comfortably and without judgement. “Be aware of your tone and language,” she stated, as women may be more sensitive than usual during this time.
“It’s also important for partners to voice any concerns or frustrations. Regular discussions can help prevent feelings of resentment and ensure both parties are actively listening to each other.”
Claire also recommends that couples educate themselves about menopause together and independently.
“Don’t wait for your partner to explain everything,” she advised. “Taking the initiative to learn about her symptoms not only helps you support her effectively but also shows that you’re committed to her well-being.”
Sexual activity may decline during menopause, so Claire suggests finding alternative ways to maintain intimacy.
“If you’re a couple who previously had a more active sex life, it may be challenging if she doesn’t want to engage in this as much anymore,” the expert noted.
Claire continued, “It’s important to separate sex from intimacy by focusing on non-sexual touch and connection. Small acts of physical affection, like holding hands or cuddling, can strengthen your bond and offer new ways to connect physically.”