Kaly Miller, a sex therapist, has shed light on her unconventional role as a sex surrogate, a profession that involves both therapeutic discussions and physical intimacy, including sleeping with over 400 men.
While most people are familiar with surrogacy related to childbirth, the concept of a sex surrogate is less known.
Miller’s work as a sex surrogate involves helping clients improve their sexual relationships through conversations about intimacy and mental health, as well as engaging in physical intimacy as part of the therapy.
In a recent interview on ITV’s This Morning, Miller described her role: “I am a mirror to you. I’m not a teacher. I’m not a guru. I’m not going to do anything for you. The whole work is done through me. But you do that work and I just model what intimacy is.”
Initially a remedial sports massage therapist, Miller decided to delve deeper into psychosexuality to enhance her understanding of human relationships. This career shift was prompted by a newspaper ad seeking ‘open-minded body workers’ and a desire for personal growth.
During the interview, Miller shared insights on how her career transition was perceived by her partner, parents, and children.
She revealed that her children were watching the interview from home, with one texting her: “Oh my God, are you freaking out? Because we are.”
Miller described her family, particularly her children and father, as her biggest supporters. She noted, “He’s like, ‘Hey, this is my girl.'”
Surprisingly, Miller’s mother also expressed interest in the field, asking if she would make a suitable surrogate partner, to which Miller agreed.
At the start of her journey as a sex surrogate, Miller was in a relationship. Her partner, familiar with her routine of rising early for her ‘personal practice,’ never questioned her work because they were supportive of her path.
She explained, “My journey is their journey. And if anyone wanted to have any sort of connection with me, there is no me without this work.”
Miller’s work has positively impacted many individuals, helping them cultivate healthier relationships with sexual intimacy.
She reflected on her experiences: “I have this myriad of memories of magical, magical moments, moments which will never be forgotten. I know everything about them and I know the outcome. Many, many are married. They have children.
“Or they’re going through the same things we’re going through. You know, ‘Oh my God this is so complicated, I’m dating and I don’t know what I’m doing.’ And neither do I. Neither do we.”