A communication specialist has pinpointed a telltale sign that a relationship is doomed, no matter how promising it seems initially. Establishing and maintaining a relationship can be quite challenging, given the complexities and layers that characterize human interactions.
Even if you believe you’ve met your perfect match and everything feels right at present, Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer renowned for his expertise in communication, has disclosed what is essential for a relationship to thrive in the long run.
In an appearance on the Diary of a CEO podcast, hosted by entrepreneur Steven Bartlett, Fisher shared his insights on achieving harmony in relationships.
Bartlett began by debunking a common misconception many hold about relationships, especially when they are young or experiencing their first serious one.
Many assume that a hallmark of a successful relationship is the absence of arguments or conflicts, a notion Bartlett disagrees with. He pointed out: “I think over time you start to figure that its not the amount of conflict, it is how one manages the conflict.”
He recalled a memorable quote: “You can predict the long-term health of a relationship by whether each cut heals to 101% or 99%. I.e. does your conflict make you stronger?”
Fisher echoed these sentiments, asserting that for a relationship to be healthy and long-lasting, conflict is necessary for growth. He observed that personal growth is often intertwined with relational dynamics and not experienced in isolation.
Fisher elaborated: “I can read a book on how to do things but until I do it, it is a totally different game. There is no other way around it you have to have the conflict if you want to be better.”
Additionally, Fisher highlighted the importance of not only experiencing conflicts but also engaging in communication and focusing on reconciliation afterward.
He remarked: “I’ve seen so many times where people have their face in their hands, they don’t know how to talk to one another because they gave up on trying to repair but they’re all on trying to blame. So when you are trying to kind of undo what has to be done that makes it all the more difficult because its just so many years where they could have been repair but there hasn’t been and in turn that hurts the relationship.”