Specialists have investigated the effects of abstaining from sex over time, highlighting the negative consequences for those with vaginas.
Even those with the most vibrant love lives might experience a lull, sometimes intentionally, other times not.
While a lack of intimacy can signal issues in a relationship or challenges in the dating scene of 2026, these aren’t the only repercussions of abstaining from sexual activity.
There are also physical and psychological effects that not having sex can have on our bodies, in addition to influencing our mindset towards sex itself.
Regrettably, for individuals with vaginas, there are specific impacts unique to them.
Certified sex therapist Sari Cooper mentioned in Reader’s Digest that a prolonged period without sex can diminish your libido, similar to a ‘use it or lose it’ concept.
“For some individuals who abstain from sex, they start to experience a decline in vitality, with reduced enthusiasm and desire for sex,” she stated.
“Out of sight out of mind is how some of my clients describe the scenario.”
For those with vaginas, another consequence of not having sex is the weakening of the vaginal walls.
This may result in discomfort or pain during intercourse after an extended period without it.
“Without regular intercourse as you age, the walls of your vagina can thin, leading to painful sex when you resume sexual activity,” explained Dr. Cooper.
For individuals going through menopause, maintaining regular sexual activity can be crucial for the health of the vaginal walls.
The North American Menopause Society even advises regular penetrative sex for this reason.
Another change you might experience is a decrease in natural lubrication.
The vagina naturally lubricates during arousal to facilitate sexual activity, though many professionals suggest using additional lubricant.
However, lower oestrogen levels associated with aging can impact this process.
Dr. Lauren Streicher noted: “If you consider a young woman in her 20s or 30s, she generally has sufficient oestrogen to ensure her tissues remain healthy, elastic, and lubricated even without regular sex.”
Lastly, a lack of sexual activity can exacerbate period pain, whereas achieving orgasm during menstruation can sometimes alleviate discomfort.
Dr. Streicher explained: “The uterus is a muscle, and many women experience uterine contractions during orgasm, which can lead to quicker expulsion of blood and reduced menstrual cramps.”
She added: “Additionally, there may be a rise in endorphins, which can also help relieve menstrual cramps.”