A woman from the UK, who has found financial success through her sugar baby lifestyle, has shared the specific rules her male clients must adhere to in order to maintain their relationship with her.
Connie Keast embraced the ‘sugar baby’ lifestyle four years ago and describes her experience as ‘great.’ She appreciates being ‘essentially self-employed,’ allowing her to select her clients, set her schedule, and determine her rates.
Residing on a narrowboat in Bristol, UK, the 36-year-old shares her experiences in the sex industry through an online blog. In her accounts, she talks about enjoying luxurious trips, indulging in fine dining, and receiving gifts from her clients.
“I eat a lot and drink a lot. I am always being taken out for something to eat or something to drink – so not so good for the waistline,” Connie joked.
Connie’s work also involves having intimate relations with clients, some of whom she admits she does not find attractive. Her clientele ranges from individuals in their early 40s to those as old as 77.
“I’ve met people that I wouldn’t meet otherwise – people with lots of money,” she continued. “I’ve not had the money when I’ve been in relationships to do those things. So it’s just nice to be well treated.”
To ensure her time is valued, Connie charges £3,000 ($4,024) per month. She also has established guidelines to safeguard her career.
Connie claims the key to success as a sugar baby is maintaining emotional distance from clients, a rule she helps enforce by selecting specific clients.
“Most of them are older than me anyway,” she said. “When you’re involved with somebody in their 60s or 70s, I’m in my mid-30s, I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with them anyway.
“I know it’s never going to happen. I know it’s not an option.”
Connie acknowledges that ‘quite a few’ of the men she sees are married, but she chooses not to have sexual relationships with married individuals her own age.
She explained: “A man can love his wife and have a very good relationship with his wife, but also have sex with somebody else. I don’t have sex with people that are my age that are married.
“It could be quite damaging. But I think lots of older men in their 60s and 70s, they still have that desire, that need, which is not being fulfilled at home.”
While Connie isn’t interested in falling for a client, she hopes to find a partner and settle down eventually.
For now, she’s content with her profession and has created a six-point guide for others considering the sugar baby lifestyle:
1) Do you enjoy meeting and getting to know people from different backgrounds?
2) Can you have sex with men who you don’t fancy, and more to the point, look like you’re actually enjoying it?
3) Are you confident enough to get naked in front of someone you’ve just met and have sex with the light on? (Most men like to see what they’re paying for).
4) Are you sufficiently emotionally unavailable? (If you’re not sure, have you ever had a one-night stand and not remembered their name in the morning? If so then you’re probably fine).
5) Are you able to say no and set boundaries? Alternatively, if you can’t say no, are you prepared to do anything? (Because you’d better be).
6) Do you like money?
If you answer no to these questions, this lifestyle might not be suitable for you.