An expert has clarified that experiencing a sex dream involving infidelity does not necessarily indicate a hidden wish to betray your partner.
Many people have experienced this scenario: the tranquility of a happy relationship is disrupted by a dream featuring someone like Travis Kelce or Taylor Swift, creating an internal turmoil.
After waking up, the discomfort lingers, prompting a conflict over the enjoyment derived from the dream, even if it occurred while beside a loving partner.
Feeling remorseful for this imagined transgression, individuals often worry about being unfaithful, concerned that these dreams might lead to real-life indiscretions.
However, dream expert Lauri Loewenberg assures that such dreams are typically not about a desire to cheat but are more likely indicative of other underlying concerns within the relationship.
Ms. Loewenberg, a certified dream analyst and a member of the International Association for the Study of Dreams (IASD), suggests that these dreams might stem from worries unrelated to actual infidelity.
Sharing insights with Women’s Health, she said, “In my research and experience helping my clients understand their cheating dreams, I have found the main reason you cheat in your dreams is because – deep down – you have guilt or concern about something you’re doing that is taking away from the time you should be putting into the relationship.”
The next question is, what kinds of concerns or guilt might trigger such dreams?
One possibility is feeling guilty about neglecting the relationship due to other life commitments, like work or parenting responsibilities.
Alternatively, there might be unresolved issues from past infidelities in previous relationships, even if one remains faithful in their current partnership.
Loewenberg noted, “Infidelity can be traumatic and very difficult to heal from. Even if it has been years or decades since the transgression, the emotional scar often remains. This includes the scar of guilt with the transgressor.”
Furthermore, these dreams might occur if there are issues in the relationship that need attention.
According to Loewenberg, “Cheating dreams are rarely about sex but are, more often, a brutally honest reflection of the dynamics within the relationship.”
Therefore, while such dreams might not imply an urge to cheat, they could signal the need to address certain issues within the relationship.