A sex therapist has shared her insights on some of the most common turn-ons and their prevalence among people.
Charlene Douglas, who gained recognition as an expert on Married At First Sight UK, understands that everyone’s preferences in the bedroom can vary greatly.
Despite this, there are certain turn-ons that seem to be universally appealing.
In a conversation with LADbible Stories during an Honest Box Session, Douglas discussed a range of sexual topics, including the average frequency of sex among couples.
She also identified the most common turn-ons she has encountered through her work with clients, and the top two might surprise some.
Douglas remarked: “I think most people would probably say oral sex. I think when you speak to penis owners and vulva owners, they will often say that having their genitals kissed, sucked and licked is very much a turn on, so I would say oral sex.”
She also emphasized that the dynamics between partners can significantly influence what excites them in the bedroom. This leads to what she considers the second most common turn-on.
She explained: “I think number two is probably dominance, there is a lot of people that talk about confidence being a real turn on.
“They like to be dominated, they like to be told what to do, where to stand, where to position themselves.
“There are more and more people that are saying that is actually, very much, a turn on, so I know a lot of guys will say that women initiating sex, saying that they desire them, saying that they want them, taking the lead can be very much a turn on. So I would say dominance is probably number two.”
Douglas also shared insights regarding the most prevalent fetishes her clients have mentioned, which differ slightly from turn-ons.
She noted: “I would say that threesomes are probably the kind of main fantasies that people have, but recently I have found that more and more people are interested in voyeurism.
“So they are getting really turned on by people watching them have sex. There was a couple that I was working with that had said that they really enjoy having sex in hotels but it needs to have a window where people can see them.
“So yeah, anything to do with voyeurism is becoming more and more popular.”