#1. It’s not honest.
Small talk creates barriers and prevents honest interactions. Hear us out: when someone talks to you about the weather or exchanges pleasantries, they’re hiding their true selves by not opening up about their personal life and experiences. People who are not genuine hide their true characters by engaging in small talk.
#2. It’s boring and awkward.
Small talk is insanely boring because you don’t learn anything from it. It usually consists of something you already know or something obvious, like the weather. It’s nothing more than predicable questions with predictable answers. It’s awkward too because both people know that there’s not enough chemistry or closeness between them to talk about real things.
#3. It dilutes the character.
You’ve heard the saying, “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” Well, we’d like to add to that: minuscule minds engage in small talk. The fact of the matter is, what you talk about says a lot about you as a person.
#4. You crave meaning.
This follows on from the previous point. If you hate small talk it’s probably because you want so much more out of a conversation: you want to learn, grow, and be stimulated. You want to connect on a deep level with another person.
#5. You consider your time precious.
People who consider their time precious don’t have the energy for mindless small talk. They have far more important things to do.
#6. You’re not insecure.
You don’t have to fill the silences with banal chat because you’re comfortable and secure no matter what. You’d much rather think about something interesting than talk just for the sake of it.
#7. You’re not a people pleaser.
Small talk has a lot to do with trying to people please, trying to avoid crossing boundaries while attempting to figure out what might spark interest in the other person. People pleasing of any kind is exhausting and totally pointless. If someone doesn’t like you when you’re real, why should their opinion count?