Alright, now that we’re all acquainted with the rawdogging trend, let’s kick things up a notch.
But first, to make sure we’re on the same wavelength – we’re talking about the TikTok trend, not spicing up our sex lives, right?
‘Cookie-jarring’ is the new trend making rounds, and while it might not be as hilarious or as outrageous as rawdogging a flight, it’s certainly something you should be aware of if you’re dating or planning to date.
Most people, especially in the US, have a jar of cookies at home that they only reach for when they need comfort – whether they’re feeling stressed, lonely, anxious, sad, or just bored.
The term ‘cookie-jarring’ stems from this concept – it’s like keeping those snickerdoodles and whoopie pies around because they’re sweet and a better option than fruit… but ultimately, you don’t crave more after indulging in them.
Often, it leaves you with regret.
In the dating world, cookie-jarring refers to someone dating multiple people simultaneously, but not for genuine reasons. Instead, it’s a backup plan for when their main relationship falls apart; they’ll have someone else to lean on.
If you’re being cookie-jarred, you’re essentially a safety net.
So, how can you protect yourself from being stashed away in the cupboard?
There are four signs to watch out for to ensure you’re not being taken for a fool. Let’s dive into them, in no particular order.
If you’ve been seeing someone for weeks, months, or even years and have tried to define your ‘situationship,’ but your ‘partner’ consistently avoids it, leaving you unsure of your standing or future progression… Then you might be in the cookie jar.
Are you the only one putting in any effort? If you’re the sole person arranging things, then again, you might be getting cookie-jarred.
Similar to the previous signs, the third indicator is if the person you’re dating avoids making concrete plans and doesn’t want to discuss the future between the two of you… cookie jar.
Lastly, if you have a gut feeling that something isn’t right – are you consistently feeling insecure about your relationship? Then maybe you aren’t truly in one.
Hopefully, these indicators will help shield you from the cookie monster – you deserve better, as we all do.