Netizens typically run to Reddit for funny memes and cat videos. But darn, who knew Redditors could be so romantic?
Recently, someone asked the stalwart residents of Reddit one particularly interesting question: “What’s something men do to impress women that actually impresses women?”
#1. Dependable guys are usually at the top of any woman’s list.
“When we were dating, my wife was impressed that I would always call when I said I would call. I generally do the things I say I am going to do. That alone put me leagues ahead of a lot of other guys.”
#2. Nice guys are nice to everyone, even those they’re not trying to impress.
“Shoot the sh*t with the staff. I always take my dates to places where I’m a regular. When everyone knows your name, it makes you look like a latter-day Sinatra.”
#3. Trust us when we tell you to date the handy man.
“My fiance just put in lighting on our back patio. and has installed 7 outlets in our new house. And a lot of non-electrical things too. It is so hot when he does manly things like fixing stuff.”
#4. Women want someone who can expand their horizons.
“Personally, staying curious, loving to learn and having an open mind.”
#5. If all else fails, look out for the one with the good heart.
“Kindness. My mum always said you can tell a lot about a man by how he treats animals. I extend this also to how he treats waitstaff at restaurants, curious children at the mall, crying babies in enclosed spaces. It’s kindness to others that I feel impresses me the most; I know you can be kind to me, you want in my pants. Being kind to those around him is more impressive in my book.”
#6. Thoughtfulness in a man is a huge turn-on.
“Listening to what I’m saying AND retaining it for later. If I mention something in passing and 2 weeks later the topic comes back up and he still remembers exactly what I said to start there and build from it, that’s a panty-dropper.”
#7. Maybe leave the college-frat-boy schtick if you want to be with a real woman.
“The first time I went to my now-husband’s house I was floored. His own house. No roommates. Super clean. A normal bed (not a mattress on the floor) and neatly made to boot? And it wasn’t like he cleaned for hours planning on me coming over. We’d been dating just a short time and I called him one day when I was in the neighborhood and walked in the door 5 minutes later. Looking back now it seems so normal, but it was far from the norm of the sloppy college bros I’d previously dated. He was an adult. And lame as it sounds, that fucking neat and tidy bed was super sexy.”
#8. His other relationships are a good indicator.
“Treating his mother or sister or close female relative well and with respect gives a really good impression, IMO.”
#9. Something as simple as talking can do a world of wonders.
“Communication. If you don’t want to go out or do something just let me know. If you don’t like something just tell me. I won’t judge you I won’t get mad but I can’t read your mind.”
#10. You don’t always have to have the answer; you just have to be “there”.
“When your SO comes to you with a problem, LISTEN. Do not try to solve their problem as 9/10 they want someone to listen not to fix. Always was tough for me as I like fixing things.”
#11. Pro tip: stay curious.
“Take an interest in them and try to learn more about their areas of interest. Too often, people try to impress others with the brag-a-thon method, but in reality, it’s much better to make others feel like they are interesting, too.”
#12. Oh, and practice your egg-flipping skills. Seriously.
“I always do stupid stuff to pretend to impress my girlfriend and make a big deal about it and she just playfully rolls her eyes but last week I flipped an omelette perfectly while mid conversation and its the first time I’ve seen her look generally impressed in 4 years together.”