A relationship expert has pinpointed a common habit that could be impacting people’s sex lives, and it’s a behavior many are familiar with.
As Valentine’s Day arrives, individuals often take a moment to consider their romantic and sexual relationships, whether they’re thriving or facing challenges.
In many cases, this reflection uncovers dissatisfaction, especially concerning sexual intimacy.
Leigh Norén, a sex therapist and relationship expert, discussed the various challenges that can affect relationships and a healthy sex life.
She emphasized one habitual activity that can significantly impede people’s intimate lives.
In an interview with the Mirror, Norén observed that people frequently search for quick solutions without adequately addressing their issues with sex and intimacy.
Rather than confronting these issues, individuals might resort to doomscrolling on social media and seeking online affirmation instead of connecting with their partner.
Norén explained: “People often feel bored in their relationships and stressed in general in life. We’re all stretched thin, and as a result, we’ve forgotten how to seek out and experience pleasure.
“Instead, we look for quick fixes and ways to dissociate, like scrolling through reels, watching memes, and indulging in junk food.
“It’s like we’ve all forgotten how to truly be and revel in pleasure overall, not just sexual pleasure. Life is so demanding nowadays that we often choose quick escapes instead of meaningful exchanges with our partner – therapists included!”
Regarding Gen Z, Norén mentioned that they might view sex with more flexibility compared to older generations, which has its advantages.
However, she highlighted how the pervasive presence of technology in daily life has altered how people connect with one another.
She added: “Gen Z have grown up in a time where we’re constantly surrounded by technology.
“This means they’re seldom bored, and instead of connecting with one another sexually as people might have done in the past, they might turn to their phones for some instant kicks instead. There’s simply so much more to do than just have sex.”
Fortunately, Norén suggested some straightforward strategies to create a more positive environment for sex and relationships.
For couples, she advised: “Reduce stress through cuddling with your partner, and then incorporate more intimate sexual touch.
“Go on a date night and decide that practicalities are off limits, instead, reminisce about the first time you met and what drew you to one another sexually.”