A couple with an age gap of over three decades have opened up about the firm rules they follow in their marriage.
Gracen Geagen, 26, is married to Kevin Geagan, 60, meaning there’s a 34-year difference between them.
On her TikTok account, @gracenfaithg, Gracen frequently posts videos about their relationship, from Q&As to advice, along with day-to-day moments that show how they handle any hurdles that come with married life.
In one video, the pair shared a set of “non-negotiable” habits they say help keep their relationship strong and grounded.
“These are our non-negotiables in our age-gap relationship,” said Gracen.
“Something we’ve implemented in our marriage, we pray together every single night, most of the time Kevin leads the prayer, but every now and again, I’ll take control.
“Regardless of your faith, the intentionality that goes into speaking gratitude and thanksgiving… and the energy that goes into that and the beauty that goes into doing that together… it’s a great way we find to centre ourselves together and individually, every night before we go to bed, it’s the last thing we do.”
Gracen then outlined another boundary they’ve set for themselves: they don’t drink alcohol unless they’re together.
“I know there’s going to be comments,” said Gracen.
“But there’s a vulnerability in drinking and being intoxicated, it’s not something I want to be without my partner present.”
Kevin stressed that the choice wasn’t a rule forced on either of them, but something they each decided personally.
Kevin added: “It was a decision we each made individually, we didn’t impose it on one another. I said, ‘look, whatever your choice is, my choice is to not get into that place of vulnerability. You can’t have two or three or four or five drinks without having one drink and I just choose not to do that when I’m out alone without Gracen.”
They also said they aim to put service and respect first, even when they aren’t seeing eye to eye.
“We try to maintain our standards of behaviour to one another, of kindness and courtesy, even if we’re having a disagreement,” said Kevin.
Gracen added that they avoid “keeping score” in the relationship, choosing instead to focus on showing up for each other without tallying who did what.
Gracen also added that they don’t keep score, explaining: “We don’t choose to say, ‘oh I did this and you didn’t’. That’s not what life is about, we’re committed to showing up and serving each other no matter what the other person did.”
While Gracen suggested they likely have more day-to-day guidelines, she said these are the four that matter most to them.
After the video circulated, some viewers debated whether the couple’s approach felt practical or too rigid, with the alcohol rule drawing particular attention.
They wrote: “If you don’t, ‘allow’ one another to consume alcohol without your significant other this only proves your lack of self control. Whether the lack of self control stems from an internal source or external, this only proves irresponsibly.”
Another commenter offered more neutral feedback, writing: “Can’t disagree with the rules, but feels forced over organic. Best of luck.”
Still, others were supportive of the couple’s approach and wished them well.
One wrote: “They look great together and they appear level headed. Shout-out to them.”
And another said: “Sounds like a good start. As long as they keep dialoging, rules may change but hopefully they will grow together.”